Loss has a way of shaking us to our very core —causing us to question everything about who we are, and leaving many feeling unanchored, uncertain, and oftentimes unsure (of what once served as) central tenets to our previously gathered version of self. We all know how to grieve: Everyone at some point is masterful in the art of grieving, whether it be triggered by a loved one who has died, a relationship ending or life as we once knew it no longer existing. However in your suffering comes an opportunity for you to find yourself once more, for emotional healing and reformation like never before.
The path to healing emotionally when faced with the loss of a loved one is not always direct or smooth. But with compassion and a little willpower to grow you can get back on your feet and find strength, purpose, and inner peace. Here are some basic steps you can take today to reconnect with who you really are after loss.
Understanding Grieving Process
Grieving is by its very nature a deeply personal experience. Grief is unique to each person and there is no time frame for how long someone needs to mend. One day, you may appear to be moving on without a problem; the next day you will likely feel overcome with sorrow or anger. It is a natural part of mourning.
And also to let yourself feel those feelings fully without judgment. Grief has no timetable, and pushing yourself to “get over it” may actually slow down your journey. But do allow yourself to feel what you are feeling—whether that is crying, talking about your loss, or simply being with the grief.
Healing necessitates a Dedication to Self-Compassion
Cherish yourself for the peace and love it has bestowed in your life whilst you wash away its loss. Maybe we think we should be “over it” by now, or that having any moments of happiness amidst our sadness is something to feel guilty about. And, I realized this type of self-analysis is not serving us emotionally.
It is about self-compassion instead. It is about giving yourself the same compassion and empathy you would to a friend in pain. Realize that there is no timeline for when you are supposed to be healed; healing is not a race. Be kind to yourself and have a heart open for all those emotions that need the space to come without shame or guilt,
Finding Your Way Back After Grief
It is normal to feel a disconnection of your sense of self after such a deep loss. The routines, relationships, and roles in which you found yourself reflected may feel like a thing of the past — it is tough to even remember who you were before. Yet this disconnect also allows for introspection and reinvention.
How to Start Reconnecting with Yourself When You Lose Someone
1. Think about your values and priorities
And so, loss has a way of causing many of us to rethink what is really important in our lives. Think about who you are, what matters to you most in the world, what truly brings a smile to your face and adds value to your life. Ask yourself:
What actually matters to me in this life?
What have I learned from this loss?
What is most important to me — what do I want to move forward with?
Answering these questions will help you to reawaken your clarity and find your orientation so that you can meet life from the side of your aspirations and values.
2. Find Things That Feed Your Soul
In your grief, be sure to find things that give you comfort, joy and solace. This could involve being in nature, meditation/mindfulness, writing or art. Engaging in these activities can help you to establish connection with your own self providing a base and aim amidst the overpowering emotional turbulence.
If we really want to be engaged in self-care, it goes so much further than pampering ourselves… it's about acknowledging your wounds and allowing time for healing. Grief can coexist with moments of joy and peace.
3. Lean on Your Support System
Grieving is a lonely feeling, but you don´t have to do it alone. Do you have people in your life that can help, friends, family members, (perhaps a good coach!), that will listen and share some advice? It takes some of the emotional load off, as well as reinforcing there are those who carry it with you.
If you find it hard to be more open with those around you, I would recommend working with a coach. You are given the support to navigate through these emotions, seek clarity and remember who you are in a safe environment. In a world where grief can seem bundled in mysteries and hidden within shadows, this partnership can be the key to unlocking the best path forward.
Connecting With The Best Version Of You: A Personal Growth Story After Loss
That loss is often the precipitant to our deepest personal growth. Though it may be hard to believe when you are in the throes of grief, the healing can be a beautiful process that will only make you come out stronger, braver and closer to who YOU are.
1. Get Your Goals and Dream Life Right
Now that you have begun to heal, what remains is looking at everything this experience literally takes from you and yet forced into your dreams and desires. Losing that love may give you a new perspective, pushing you to look into other directions or a newfound passion. Spend some time thinking about what you want from life at this point in time and how your new future goals will correspond to the journey of personal development that is yours.
2. Learn to Be More Confidence and Raise your Self Esteem
Often grief can wear away at our very hearts and self-worth. While you are struggling with yourself, please work on self-assurance and self confidence. Celebrate, be reminded of the strength you have through your own actions, and remind yourself that you can get through it.
This is going to take practice, but coaching can help you find ways to quiet your inner critic and build a new image of who YOU are! You will get your mojo back and take massive action towards those new goals with the help of a coach.
3. Practice Gratitude and Be Present
It is so easy to get trapped in what has already happened or what may happen, but there are things like gratitude and presence that can help greatly. Be in the NOW, and see you now no matter how small your life is beautiful.
Gratitude does not result in your turning a blind eye to your grief — gratitude allows you the grace to enjoy those enjoyed moments amidst the sorrow. This can help recenter yourself and bring peace as you continue your healing process.
Coaching to Follow the Path of Healing
Grieving is personal and complex, but you do not need to do it alone. It helps you to go right back into finding yourself from within and work through the goodies of grief with high personal support and coaching.
A coach gives you a safe space to work through your feelings, builds you back up and provides strategies for growth truly unique to YOU. Through tried-and-true methods, empathic guidance, and consistent follow-up coaching allows you the ability to more effectively work through the emotional healing process.
Are You Willing To Embark On Your Healing Journey?
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I appreciate the chance to share this guide to emotional healing after loss. Come walk with us on this journey to re-discovery, resistance and restoration.
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